Tonight with my husband.........?

I would like some advice on what i should do with my husband tonight. we rarely make love as we have our own business and a 3 year old son who will only sleep when i do. not to mention my husband is a jerk and doesnt like . he doesnt turn me on, ever it is just jump on and jump off kinda thing. i want to know how to get him to make love with me and turn me on have and be nice to me afterwords not his usual jerky self. please help me decide. he will be going to bed in 30 minutes......